Tuesday, November 8, 2011

The Selfless You

It is so easy to sit around, feeling sorry for yourself, expecting the world to throw you a pity party for your misfortune. The truth of the matter is, many of us have been so blindsided by our slight misfortunes, that we have seemed to overlook the abundance of blessings that have been bestowed upon us.

Sure, I get it - everyone has a hard time once in a while. However, what is one to do with those experiences? You can feel sorry for yourself, you can mope, you can hide, you can have failure or rejection allow you to live in fear, but victims are never winners, at least not without choosing to become victors first.

If you live your life in the present, you will very quickly realize that you have the option to choose to be happy. It is that simple. Sure, bad things happen. Sure, we hurt. However, you have the opportunity at any given moment to say, "I am happy. I choose to overcome my problems, because when I think about what lies ahead, the past does not compare." Happiness is not about something you achieve, happiness is looking at your situation, your misfortunes, your pain, and saying "These things are not enough to keep me down. I'm moving on with my life. My blessings outnumber my misfortunes." As soon as you become at peace with your situation, you will realize that you could have been happy all along.

Bad experiences are not meant to hurt us, they are meant to teach us. God does not give us pain and suffering in vain, He teaches us lessons through tough love. It is up to us to use unfortunate situations for good causes. The next time you find yourself throwing a pity party, ask yourself how you can use your misfortune to make your life better. Seek lessons in your pain and suffering, and as Dr. Maya Angelou says, "When you learn, teach." Your testimony could be someone's saving grace. Don't take any life lesson too lightly.

You have a responsibility to yourself to not fall victim to your circumstances. If you are constantly unhappy, it's not because you're cursed, it's because you haven't taken the reigns and chose to overcome your situation. We are who we are because of the experiences, whether good or bad, and so you might as well use them for something good.